100 ways to be Kind to your Child....



I love you to the moon, and then around the 
stars and back again.....

 

 

 

Tell to your child:
1. I love you.
2. love you no matter what.
3. I love you even when you are angry at me.
4. I love you even when I am angry with you.
5. I love you when you are far way. My love for you can reach you wherever you are.
6. If I could pick any 4 year old (5 year old, 6 year old…) in the whole wide world, I’d pick you.
7. I love you to the moon and then around the stars and back again.
8. Thank you.
9. I enjoyed playing with you today.
10. My favorite part of the day was when I was with you and we _______.
 

Tell them:
11. The story of their birth or adoption.
12. About how you cuddled them when they were a baby.
13. The story of their name.
14. A story about yourself when you were their age.
15. The story of how their grandparents met.
16. What your favorite color is.
17. That sometimes you struggle too.
18. That when you’re holding hands and you give three squeezes, it’s a secret code that means, “I love you”.
19. What the plan is.
20. What you’re doing right now.

Play:
21. Freeze Tag
22. Uno
23. Crazy 8s
24. Gin Rummy
25. Memory
26. Go Fish
27. I Spy- especially when you’re tired of driving and feel snappish
28. Catch

Pretend:
29. To catch their kiss and put it on your cheek.
30. That their tickle tank is empty and you have to fill it.
31. That their high five is so powerful it nearly knocks you over.
32. That you are super ticklish.
33. That you are explorers in the amazing world of your own backyard.
34. That it’s party day!

Try:
35. To get enough sleep.
36. To drink enough water.
37. To eat decent food.
38. Dressing in a way that makes you feel confident and comfortable.
39. Calling a friend the next time you feel like you are about to lose it with the kids.
40. Giving a gentle touch to show approval, rather than saying something.
41. Dancing in the kitchen.
42. To get your kids to bop to the music with you in the car.
43. Showing your kids that you can do a somersault or handstand or a cartwheel.
44. Keeping the sigh to yourself. Just jump in and help clean up.
45. Using a kind voice, even if you have to fake it.

Read:
46. A book of silly poems.
47. A book and then act it out. (Like “I’m going on a Bear Hunt”)
48. Your favorite childhood book to them.
49. When the afternoon is starting to go astray.
50. Outside under a tree.
51. In the library kids corner.
52. The comic book they love that you’re not so hot on.
53. About age appropriate behavior so you can keep your expectations realistic.

Listen:
54. To your child in the car.
55. To that Lego description, and think how important it is to your child.
56. For that question that indicates your child really needs your input.
57. One second longer than you think you have patience for.
58. For the feelings behind your child’s words.

Ask:
59. Why do you think that happens?
60. What do you think would happen if______?
61. How shall we find out?
62. What are you thinking about?
63. What was your favorite part of the day?
64. What do you think this tastes like?

Show:
65. Your child how to do something instead of banning them from it.
66. How to whistle with a blade of grass.
67. How to shuffle cards- make a bridge if you can!
68. How to cut food.
69. How to fold laundry.
70. How to look up information when you don’t know the answer.
71. Affection to your spouse.
72. That taking care of yourself is important.

Take Time:
73. To watch construction sites.
74. To look at the birds.
75. To allow your child to help you dump ingredients in the bowl.
76. To walk places together.
77. To dig in the dirt together.
78. To do a task at your child’s pace.
79. To just sit with you child while they play.

Trust:
80. That your child is capable.
81. That you are the right parent for your child.
82. That you are enough.
83. That you can do what is right for your family.

Delight your child:
84. Clean your child’s room as a surprise.
85. Put chocolate chips in the pancakes.
86. Put a love note in their lunch.
87. Make their snack into a smile face shape.
88. Make sounds effects while you help them do something.
89. Sit on the floor with them to play.

Let Go:
90. Of the guilt.
91. Of how you thought it was going to be.
92. Of your need to be right.

Give:
93. A kind look.
94. A smile when your child walks into the room.
95. A kind touch back when your child touches you.
96. The chance to connect before you correct so that your child can actually hear your words.
97. Your child a chance to work out their frustrations before helping them.
98. A bath when the day feels long.
99. A hug.
100. You get to choose the next one! What is your favorite way to be kind to your child?

 

Courtesy of www.creativewithkids.com

Xeno Vs Phyto Oestrogen

“A Xeno-oestrogen is a ‘fake’ or ‘synthetic’ hormone produced by the body in response to environmental pollutants” 

 

A woman’s body is delicately tuned to respond to all oestrogen and oestrogen-like molecules ~ the hormone which governs our womanly cycles, moods and reproductive wellbeing. In our severely developed and technologically advanced environment we are constantly bombarded with chemicals and signals which may act as a fake oestrogen in our bodies. 

 

These synthetic compounds are called Xeno-oestrogens, and even though some are now banned or are in the process of being phased out they sadly remain within the food chain.

 

 

Xeno-oestrogens have been proven to be responsible for many disorders of the endocrine system.

Plastics & Plasticisers such as BPA Bisphenol A

PBB Polybrominated biphenyls the group of chemicals added to TV & computer screens, fabrics and textiles to reduce their flammability
Herbicides, Insecticides & Pesticides which are environmentally recycled
Dioxins
Phthalates which are used in plastics, cosmetics, medical apparatus, flooring and wall coverings

And they are responsible for the onset of a plethora of conditions.....

Early Puberty, Pre Menstrual Syndrome, Menstrual Cramps, Heavy Periods, PCOS, Uterine Fibroids, Infertility, Auto-Immune disease, Thyroid disorders, several forms of Cancer and hormone disruption in male development.

How do they do this?

By mimicking the effects of Oestrogen, competing with the naturally occurring and less damaging oestrogen and shifting the fragile balance of hormonal harmony between Oestrogen and Progesterone, and even Testosterone. 

There are ways to avoid the exposure to Xeno-oestrogens....

Eat more organic or chemical free produce which has not been sprayed by pesticides, insecticides, herbicides and fertilisers.

Even better – grow your own!
Use paraben and phthalate free cosmetics and household cleaners. Read labels, and don’t go by what the manufacturer wants you to believe!
Switch off your WiFi and keep your mobile phone away from your body when not in use
Use alternatives to plastics such as glass or stainless steel, and avoid the use of cling wrap in microwave ovens
Be mindful of the quality and type of plastic toys your children are given or using – often they end up in the mouth being chewed and sucked on for hours every day
When you purchase new items for your children, such as mattresses, car-seats, even some clothing – wash or air them first.

Some foods contain naturally occurring oestrogens called Phyto-oestrogens (Isoflavonoids, Lignans) and many of these comprise part of a healthy balanced diet. Whilst they can bind to oestrogen receptors, their effect is thought to be far less intrusive than their synthetic Xeno-partners.
Scientists believe this is a result of humans co-evolving with many of the food plants that produce them.

These foods include.....

 *Soy products (tofu, tempeh, miso, soy milk) *Organic Whole Bean only

Raw nuts & Omega Oil rich seeds such as flax, sesame, and sunflower
Grains - especially wheat germ, beans and legumes
Garlic and onions and fresh herbs
Cruciferous vegetables such as cabbage, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts and broccoli
Some fruits including apples, peaches, and watermelon
Alfalfa and red clover sprouts

 

A healthy approach to hormonal wellbeing is to avoid Xeno-oestrogens wherever possible, and to otherwise reduce your exposure to them. Eating a diet with a variety of Phyto-oestrogens is safe, but wellbeing is always about balance. (Some caution is given to women who have been dignosed with  Oestrogen sensitive tumours)

Ensure that your diet has adequate fibre and filtered water to allow the proper excretion of all metabolised hormones. Liver and bowel function is paramount to a healthy hormonal system. If you are suffering Hormone Disorders, think beyond the obvious as the reproductive system is part of a huge bodily system relying on Neurological, Immune and Digestive wellbeing.